Imagine this: an 11-year-old orphan boy in Colombia, Sebastian, learns that a U.S. family he stayed with for five weeks wants to adopt him. The moment was so overwhelming that he couldn’t hold back his emotions, breaking down in tears of joy.
JoBen and Amanda Barkey from California, USA, knew right from the start that they wanted to make Sebastian a part of their family. Over the summer, Sebastian spent five unforgettable weeks with the Barkeys, forming bonds and creating memories. However, he had no idea they were planning to adopt him.
This secrecy wasn’t by choice but by design. Colombian hosting and adoption laws prevent families from revealing their intent to adopt during the hosting period. Respecting these rules, JoBen and Amanda also kept the news from their own children, ensuring the process remained a surprise.
This thoughtful approach turned out to be a brilliant move. Without knowing what lay ahead, the Barkey kids formed a close and genuine bond with Sebastian, spending hours playing together and building a strong relationship. The parents quietly watched the connection grow.
The reveal came with an emotional twist. After an emotional farewell at the airport when Sebastian had to return to Colombia, the children were left confused and saddened by his departure. Weeks later, JoBen and Amanda gathered their kids, recording their reactions as they shared the life-changing news: they were adopting Sebastian.
JoBen emphasizes that while the adoption journey is filled with joy, it requires preparation for the time, effort, and costs involved. However, with a strong support system, he believes the process becomes a rewarding and transformative experience.
